The gains in letting go
All our lives may be charted as a series of “letting go” experiences. Sometimes we choose and let go graciously, often we are forced to let go and most often of all, we let go by “making them wrong”. To be born into this chaotic, inspiring frightening, beautiful, painful rich life, we ‘let go” of the womb. […]
Freedom: Moving through self-hatred
I failed yesterday. I missed a conference call with two esteemed clients and friends. Irrelevant is the fact that a minor crisis interrupted my morning. The missed call, while unacceptable, wasn’t the failure. It was what came after. I failed yesterday. There was an emergency situation that derailed me but the failure wasn’t there! It […]
Man-up, Step-up. Woman-up: Take your attention
Where does your attention go? Is it a homing pigeon roosting in the trifling things that are “wrong”? Does it land on the gossipy or “dish the dirt”? Does it take you higher, to the “big picture”? G. K. Chesterton says, ” A weak mind is like a microscope which magnifies trifling things but cannot receive […]
Dancing from dark to light
”Before you can see the light, you have to deal with the darkness.” – Dan MillmanWhat’s this mean?Dealing with the darkness means being with the pain, the shame, the discomfort, the suffering or other difficult emotions.It DOESN’T mean avoiding, making smaller, denying or escaping – the usual suspects (and for good reason – who wants to […]
Barely breathing: A case study in competing commitments
What is possible when we transform the language of complaint to the language of commitment? Yesterday, a client who sent a desperate email request for a session signed Barely Breathing had a breakthrough. I can’t take credit. I credit Robert Kegan. I used his Immunity to Change model to have her look at her suffering […]
Presence: An invitation to courage
We speak lightly of Presence so often – in working with ourselves, in working with our clients. Yet, we don’t often think of it as the key to developing courage! This morning as this quote came across my screen, I began to ponder it more deeply.First the quote: There were times when I could not […]
Shearing through limiting beliefs
The man who believes he can do something is probably right, and so is the man who believes he can’t. So what’s it going to be? Are you attaching to your very sticky, very clingy limiting beliefs about what you can’t accomplish or taking garden shears and cutting through the velcro to make a shift? […]
Language reveals our reality: Food for thought
The other day, two friends were discussing current projects at work. I listened to their conversation with curiosity. Joe described his project as “a battle” while Karen used “a journey” to describe her experience. He laughingly pointed to the difference in their metaphors and I was struck by how the difference affected their approach to […]
Tracking intimacy: Getting close to your partner
Do your relationships feel stale? Are you wondering where intimacy is hibernating? Are you experiencing the “blahs” when you long to feel engaged, engrossed and connected? The sparkle may have fizzled or been stillborn. Now, your feelings of closeness may be hitchhiking towards the hills. Unlike most skills, we are rarely taught how to communicate […]
Mastermind: Case Consultation and Business Development
There is synergy of energy, commitment, and excitement that participants bring to a Mastermind Group. The beauty of Mastermind Groups is that participants raise the bar by challenging each other to create and implement goals, brainstorm ideas, and support each other with courage, respect and compassion. Mastermind participants act as catalysts for growth, devil’s advocates […]
